It was Noam Chomsky who sort of opened my eyes to something that I used to wonder about. Chomsky put words to descibe the thought. "Right wing" or "Extreme" regimes are dumb only in fairy tales or Mad magazine. They have reached the top because they are rational players.
More to the point, the Pakistani army, while openly admitting that it is focused against India and openly supporting everything that is anti-India, is clever enough to understand that if they suppressed all sentiment that goes against their "anti-India" stance they end up "looking like" extremists/right wingers. Looking like extremists extracts a price of its own because friends and aid givers have their own dynamics and do not want to be seen helping a Hitler, but would be happy to help a more moderate looking despot/regime.
It is absolutely Chankian for the Pakistan army to tolerate Zardari like moves - including One friggin million in greenbacks to a dargah. This may be Zardari's private money but we know how Zardari made his money.
The lesson here is that India too cannot afford to act anti-Pakistan all the time. With Pakistanis being Chankian enough to make gestures that appear like friendship, India will ultimately end up being branded the extremist. It always pays to keep extreme viewpoints hidden from view or expressed as a footnote. That is why India cannot always spurn and reject everything that Pakistan says.
Now consider this. Pakistan makes a move that appears like conciliation/friendship. We all know that Pakistan is not honest in doing that. We detect deceit and guile in what Pakistan is doing. Because we (BRF) know that Pakistan is actually deceitful, we want India to reject that outright. But for reasons I mentioned above India cannot reject such things outright. This is not weakness or softness, it is the way the world works. As a digression I think many of you read the reaction on the forum when one member expressed extreme views on homosexuality instead of nodding, smiling and going with the "moderate, tolerant" flow. In real life it is not always wise to say up front what you believe. Better to pretend and not make waves. That applies to international diplomacy as much as interpersonal relationships. With Zardari being allowed to stay in power AND visit India AND donate money to a shrine in India, the Pakistan army comes across as moderate and tolerant, playing second fiddle to the civilian "administration" under Zardari
. If India makes aggressive statements and actions it will be India that gets branded on the international stage as an aggressor who means ill will to its neighbours. Ultimately these things matter.
It is partly because many on BRF always see Indian moves as stupid or weakness and we brand certain people such as MMS as useless that we are unable to see a funny move when it hits us in the face. Manmohan's offer of "helping Pakistan in the rescue work after the avalanche" was actually a hilarious masterstroke and returned the compliment given when Pakis offered to help after the Bhuj earthquake. It puts Pakis in an Ajit liquid oxygen situation. If they refuse help, India can say "We offered, Pakistan refused". If they accept, it would be hilarious to see the Indian army crawling all over a Pakistan army battalion HQ in the name of humanitarian work - to be splashed in the media all over the world.