I used to dismiss this attitude with the term "cognitive bias" where you assume that your personal (RAPE) environment and ambiance represents the environment and ambiance of all of Pakistan.
But in the ensuing years it appears to be that even though that is correct - I am missing something extra - an extra vulgar twist that Pakistanis seem to have. In most functioning countries - certainly in India - people have or have been made to develop a sense of ownership of the whole land. This feeling makes one sorry when you see injustice or poverty and want to do something to address it. Everyone may not feel that way but even if one in ten people feels that way it constitutes a huge percentage of patriots or nationalists.
But Pakistanis, particularly the cabal of Pakjabis, Sindhis and mohajirs - have been continuously rejecting parts of Pakistan that they see as "the other, other Pakistan" and do not give a damn about what happens there. Anything from that part of the country has nothing to do with them - be it deaths, bombs, polio or maternal mortality. They did that with Bangladesh. They are doing that with Baluchistan and Waziristan, in fact large parts of KP/NWFP. They did it very long ago with PoK- so people have forgotten about that.
As is this was not enough - there is yet another layer of the same rejection/ denial of inconvenient poverty and dirt within core Pakistan (Pakjab and Sindh) where the RAPE speak like Salman Taseer. I haven't figured out the exact mental process and education that gets them to be this way. the closest I can get is like the minor Muslim chamchas and functionaries of bigger rulers being satisfied by overlordship across a small area of land and great personal wealth. This is not nationalism. Pakistan is a fragile state and can be knocked over. It should be knocked over.
Shivji, sorry for the long post.
A while ago- don't have so many posts on BR so it should not be hard to find- I'd proposed the filter of (IIRC) 'Rejection and Divorce' for understanding the actions of a Pakistani individual, group, caste, sect, organization or even the entire nation state.
In short, the Pakistani's mental conditioning forces drives him to reject 'everything that is not him', and divorce it with usually violent consequences. Anything can and has been defined as the 'everything that is not him'.
This rejection could be of a philosophy, an individual, a group, a religion, a car, a building..anything. It's happening all the time, over or under the surface.
1947 was Jinnah's rejection of and divorce with the rest of India, a process begun under Syed Ahmad Khan. India was defined as 'everything that Jinnah and others like him were not'.
The 50s saw the Armed Forces rejecting of and divorcing with the politicians post Jinnah. The politicians were everything that the army wasn't.
1971 was Pakistan's rejection of and divorce with Bangladesh. Bangladesh was a 'low lying country with low, lying peoples', according to the Pakistani elite at the time.
Baluchistan is continuing evidence of the same work in process. Thus far the divorce has not been completed.
Zia separated and divorced himself from Bhutto, Qadri from Taseer's philosophy, the TTP from the Pakjabi army. The son of a senior Pakistani air force officer who set up a car bomb in the NY, USA, rejected America and tried to violently divorce what it stood for.
And so on.
Note; they also reject their own mango abduls. They reject other families, clans, castes, tribes, other regions and provinces. Your point of "...the cabal of Pakjabis, Sindhis and mohajirs - have been continuously rejecting parts of Pakistan" is very valid.
It gets more insidious- at the heart of who they are, Pakjabis and their other elites, have also rejected their own identities in favour or a Saudi, Turkish, Iranian world view. This is IMO the biggest and most recurrently exploding time bomb of all.
Because they don't want to be who they are, they are rejecting and divorcing their very self, which is the ultimate font of violence.
Whereas other healthier cultures also 'accept and assimilate' apart from 'rejecting and divorcing', Pakistan and Pakistanis can only do the latter.
I have found this framework to be useful if one wants to predict how they will react over a period of time to pretty much anything.
My 2 cents. AoA.