But let me start with blatant plagiarism from a chapter of my own book - by reproducing a couple of paragraphs after making just one change - I have replaced the word Pakistanis with Chinese
The Chinese, like all other people, display the usual range of human behavioural patterns: joy, sorrow, anger, pain and other emotions which are indistinguishable from anyone else on an individual level. But groups of thousands or millions of people anywhere in the world, who live together in nations tend to develop certain unique patterns of behaviour based on the stresses, experiences and history of their particular society. Sometimes these unique patterns of behaviour are very difficult to recognize, because the behaviour is very much like that of anyone else. Even so, it is worth recognizing minor differences because this knowledge has some value in understanding behaviour, and in negotiation and reaching agreements.
For example, communication between cultures becomes difficult if negotiators from different cultures cannot understand each others’ behaviour. A deep understanding of Japanese culture was required before international agreements could be reached with Japan on the issue of whaling and protection of endangered species of whales. Some cultures, such as Japanese culture have been well studied (41). The important role of saving face and avoiding shame is well recognized, and must be taken into account in negotiation. Another well known example of the consequences of an inability to understand cultural nuances comes from a transcript of a telephone conversation in Arabic between Egyptian President Gamel Abdel Nasser and King Hussein of Jordan when Egyptian forces were being defeated by Israeli forces in 1967. The cultural need to avoid shame forced Nasser to state that his forces were fighting well against their enemy, but King Hussein was unable to understand the nuances by which Nasser hinted that his forces were being defeated. That left Hussein, and Jordan unprepared for their defeat in the war subsequently (42).
I would like to add a caution here. When I say " I want to study your psyche" and I start making observations about you, my observations will invariably be coloured by my own psyche, my biases, and my experiences. I have found this factor to be an important player in the interaction between two people or individuals from two different cultures.
Let me state right up at the outset that the Chinese, in the media and on the internet where I encounter them most frequently come across as boastful and contemptuous of Indians often to the point of being racist. Indians on the other hand are brought up with guiding principles like "Accept all people. Accept your fault first. Improve yourself" etc. Indians are constantly engaged in an internal self correction battle. This is a huge problem in calling out peculiar traits that others may display because we are eager to learn about our faults and correct ourselves and eager to say that we must be accepting of other's beliefs and viewpoints.
In the late 1990s when I first started encountering large numbers of Chinese on the internet it was commonplace to find Indians being referred to as "curry breath" and there were lots of jokes about Indians using computers and have "floppy dicks" - a parody of a mispronunciation that some Indians make. But instead of a robust response to racist comments Indians are prone to go off on a tangent and ask "Are not racist too? Do we not treat people from the NE badly?" My personal response to that is "I friggin well don't so please don't include me in your self flagellating caterwaul" .
The point I am trying to make is that talking about "other people" is fraught with the complication that we will get consumed by guilt and start asking if we don't have the same characteristics ourselves. OF COURSE WE DO. That is what I mean by humans sharing a similar psyche. But it is just that some aspects of behaviour are either encouraged or exaggerated in some groups of people and the discussion should revolve around that and not self flagellation
People have pointed out that the Chinese have a deep sense of inferiority about the west and white skins and non Chinese eyes (no epicanthic fold) . I leave it to others to state what they think about this. I also think that the Chinese may have had a culture of politeness (this is a guess) that was erased by Mao's cultural revolution producing a nation of grabbing boors. I note that the Chinese way of dealing with anything negative about themselves is to shame and mock the other person. There is also a tendency to give finger-wagging lectures.
The combination of inferiority about the west and contempt for the foreigner has resulted in the Chinese aping America assiduously to a level where the Americans themselves acknowledge the Chinese - which is high praise. And that allows the Chinese to be boastful and contemptuous of everyone else - and nowadays even the Americans.
I hope we can have a meaningful exchange of views. And please be wary of people shifting the subject from Chinese behaviour to Indian behaviour.