harbans wrote:Eurasia review comments: Those that supported the Dharmic stance..my respect. Rajesh A, Carl and Atri ji. Some of the points that you made are sinking in. I come from a very mixed bag family now. Hindu-Sikh-Kerala-Tamil, my own gf Naga and yes..i have recently a BIL (1st cousin) a Hyderabadi Muslim too! A direct link between violence and doctrine is always to be introspected. When there is no link or there is controversiality on translation/ purport as in the Upanishad, it's reference comes in only with a motivated opinion like Harmeets. I don't understand how Harmeet was allowed to write for Eurasia review. It's like getting Osama to write for a NYT editorial..would Americans accept it? Dharma is our foundation..amongst all Indic faiths. Lets find and encourage the common heritage. Veda's is our heritage. Hindu, Sikh, Jain, Buddhist. We may or may not agree to some tenets, but we agree it is our heritage..a Harmeet cannot break our bond with that.
Harbans ji,
I time and again refer to real meaning of term "sanaatana" (stretched from origins). Puranas are folk-lores of pre and post Vedic era. The vedas themselves are conglomerate of various "peer-reviewed" opinions. Those oral traditions and stories which did not make into Vedas, Vyaasa very painstakingly wrote them in form of Puranas. He also compiled the haphazard Vedic "memories" into 4 distinctive categories.
While Vedas are "memories" of human being from just before development of speech (in form of bird songs) to speech, Puranas are not only memories but also "theories" of human beings about the origins. As Bhimsen of Mahabharata very correctly identifies, "kaama" is mother of all other purusharthas and hence the superior to all three (dharma, artha and moksha). Our memories have stories when there were no "names" for relations. Only relation was that between a fertile man and woman. Here we have stories of Brahmadeva and his daughter indulging in coitus in beginning of time. There are many stories as such.
later, when numbers grew, the basic relations and prohibitions started appearing. The dialogue between siblings Yama and Yami where Yami proposes her brother Yama to have intercourse with her and Yama refuses, elevates Yama to the position of "Dharma-Raaja". It is hereafter that a fertile sibling was referred to as "brother" or "sister" and was off limits for procreation. Relationship with a fertile sibling got a "name". This shows evolution of man.
The conversation of Yama and Yami from Rigveda is very fascinating. Yami asks "what is use of brother, if he cannot fulfill his "Svasu". The sanskrit term for brother "Bhraataa" and for husband "Bhartru" come from same word root "BhR" which means "to fulfill". Yami refers to herself as "Svasu". स्वान् सरति इति स्वसा. One who imitates (bad translation for Anusarana which means to behave in accordance to) her "own" (in hindi "Apne"). जो अपनों का अनुसरण करती हैं वह स्वसा. Here, it means one who cohabits with one's kin is svasaa.
Yami asks - "किं भ्राता सद्यद् अनाथं भवति? किमु स्वसा यत् निरऋतिः न गच्छात्" -
(What is (the use of) brother, who keeps me "Anaath (Uncovered/Unprotected)"? What is (meaning of being) Svasaa who cannot even follow her drive"?)
Later as man graduated to social hunter-gatherer, we slowly see matriarchal identities. There is no need for an offspring to be identified by its father as no one is sure who the father is. But one is sure about one's mother. Here we see the categories of people referring to themselves as Aadityas (lineage of aditi), daityas (lineage of Diti), Vainateyas (lineage of Vinita), Kaartikeyas (lineage of Kritikas), Daanavas (lineage of Danu) so on and so forth. All these are "women of Prajapati" but none of the offsprings are identified by father's name. But this shows beginning of "Sahodara (belonging to same womb)" relationships among humans and Indics.
The fact that the necessity arose to have some "clan name" also shows evolution of man into higher level of social organization. The evolution from pre human (when we were early homo-sapiens or perhaps even prior) is as follows.
Alpha male system (one male owing all females in clan) >> many males many females cohabiting together without defined pair bonding >> many males and many females of same lineage cohabiting together without defined pair-bonding >> one male cohabiting with multiple females of same lineage AND one female cohabiting with multiple males of same lineage >> multiple females cohabiting with with one male of *different lineage* (emergence of Gotra system).
There are stories of each of such systems in our Puranas. It shows the lineage from Prajapati (origin of species) until Kaurava-Pandavas and Parikshita. The lineage continues until Mauryas. This is the real "sanaatana" dharma.
This also shows the emergence of Brahmacharis and Brahmanas. The story of Sanakaadi sages show that certain individuals voluntarily sacrificed their "share" of women to go live in forests. This "sacrifice" earned them high respect as they could think above the petty constraints of belonging to a particular lineage or clan. A system of counselling developed which evolved in parallel and which was based on altruistic sacrifice of one's primal drives in favor of something higher and more meaningful. One must thank Vyaasa Rishi to have chronicled all these stories, theories for us, when it is clear that he himself did not approve many such practices. Most of these practices were considered "Garhya" by the time of Vyaasa rishi. But he honestly chronicled them. My Vandanaa to this great soul.
The references of free cohabitation, sibling cohabitation, offering one's "stri (woman)" to friend OR guest" (*note that the word "patni" has not evolved yet), references towards intercourse with alive and dead animals, intercourse with wife of one's guru (much later stage, when humans understood that knowledge is important), cohabitation with multiple males, temporary cohabitation, contract marriage all these are referred to in our Itihaasa.
There is story of Daksha prajapati and aasivaki giving birth to 5000 children then a brahmachari named Naarada appears and counsels them about economy. This discourse of Narada is first of its kind in human history which talks about economics and necessity to keep numbers less and spread across different regions for efficient utilization of resources without burdening the earth. Those 5000 sons agreed with Narada and scattered in all directions and settled in distant lands, never to return. Seeing that children are gone, Prajapati and aasivaki gave birth to 1000 more kids who also spread in all directions like their predecessors. This not only shows expansion of aryans all over earth from here, but also shows how certain individuals by sacrificing their primal drives earned knowledge and respect from rest. Thus this prajapati system resulted in 3 important changes in humans and dharmiks.
1. emergence of gotras
2. tendency to spread out and colonize other lands
3. tendency of few to indulge in brahmacharya willingly.
Bhishma beautifully explains this succinctly in three verses from chapter 207 of Shanti Parva.
न चैषां मैथुनो धर्मो बभूव भरतर्षभ
संकल्पादेवैतेषां अपत्यं उपपद्यते - 37
ततः त्रेतायुगेकाले संस्पर्शात् जायते प्रजा
न ह्य भूः मैथुनो धर्मस्तेषां अपि जनाधिप - 38
द्वापरे मैथुनो धर्म प्रजानां भवन्नृपः
तथा कलियुगे राजन द्वन्द्व मापेदिरे जनाः - 39
"In satya yuga, intercourse happened as desire arose in minds of fertile men and women. There were no words for mother, father, sibling etc. In Treta Yuga, when men and women touched each other and welcomed the touch, dharma allowed them to copulate for time-being. (this is stage where concept of "favourite" mate started emerging). IN Dwapara Yuga, Men and women started cohabiting as couples but not as stable and committed pair-bonding couples. In Kali Yuga, the stable pair-bonding (what we refer to as institution of marriage) emerged."
As man progressed the vedic era, the ritual for marriage became fixed. The ritual itself is highly revealing and are found in Ashvalaayan Grihya sutra. The three core rituals of Hindu marriage are
1. Shila Aarohanam
2. Lajjaa Homam
3. Sapta padi.
The sequence of other rituals changes in different cultures, times, places, castes etc. But these three are somewhat universal.
When a girl child is born, she is "owned" by different Devatas until her different ages. It seems like Devas being powerful had the right of Prelibation (Agra-Upabhoga). Prelibation means right of "first taste". Right to have first Upabhoga of a woman was by Devas. Young fertile bride of marriageable age is under the bondage of three devatas (Aaryaman, Varuna and Pushan) because they have right "taste her first".
Groom asks permission from bride's father and father gives away his daughter to the groom (Kanyaadaan). But what about the devatas? they will not give her up so easily. Vara (Groom) frees the bride from the bondage (Paasha) of three devatas by his valor at an opportune time (Muhurtam). This is the reason why Hindu marriage emphasizes on Muhurta. It was deliberate planning by the groom to liberate the one whom he desires at an auspicious time when he thinks the chances of slipping past the guard of devatas are highest. On predetermined time, the bride agrees to elope with groom from bondage of devatas. This is signified by exchanging garlands which symbolizes her consent.
The three Devatas are angered by this insolence and attack the "Vara" to get back, what they think is rightfully theirs. Here comes the ritual of "Shilaa Aarohanam" where groom asks bride to climb a rock and hold it tight and stay in his life like that immovable rock. Remember, Varuna is water-god and only climbing on a tall, firm and immovable rock can save one from wrath of Varuna. This also affirms the commitment of bride. Since groom has angered three powerful devatas for this lady and has picked fight with them, he needs to be sure that all this was worth it. The bride promises him that she shall hold on firmly to the rock and hold on in his life like that firm immovable rock.
As angry Devatas approached the Vara, and seeing that bride safe on rock (Shilaa), her brother rushes to help the groom. He indulges in negotiations with three devatas. Here begins the ritual of "Laajaa Homa". He offers the three gods parched rice grains (which is more valuable than raw rice grains, hence an expensive gift). Not only this, he coats the Laajaa (parched rice) with ghee, thus making it a valuable offering. He offers Parched rice coated with ghee thrice in Agni as "fine" to the devatas. This ritual is called "Avadaana". While giving this "fine" to three devatas thrice, the brother warns three of them to leave his sister alone else he will join hands with her husband in war against them. He "calls" three devatas individually and gifts them and warns them separately. Thus both groom and bride's brother bribe and threaten each of the three gods individually and separately. They circled around agni to confuse the devatas. While encircling the sacred agni, couple made vows to each other of mutual good conduct. This shows how cunning brother was.
In spite of bribing, Varuna still held on to the hair of bride. Groom symbolically touches the hair of bride and releases her from clutches of Varuna, setting her completely free.
Hereafter we approach the main ritual of "Sapta Padi". Hindu Jurisprudence has considered this ritual as the one which cements the wedding since ancient times. Even modern hindu civil code asks for performance of sapta-padi as proof that marriage has materialized. After victoriously liberating his beloved from clutches of devatas, they take seven steps together towards Ishanya (north-east) direction which is considered direction of devatas. They make joint declaration of their wishes and expectations from each other.
This ritual of Hindu Marriage is itself a signification of evolution of man, assertion of man over something that belongs to him and drive of man to achieve it, even if it means angering omnipotent Devas. It also shows how important brother is in life of a woman. It also shows that the relationship of "brother-sister" is well defined and established and sibling-cohabitation had by this time, had became "Off-limits". It also shows that woman was yearning to be liberated by a "hero" and becomes his wife in defiance of gods. The ritual continues only if woman swears the oath of fidelity by climbing the rock. This shows the beginning of patriarchal system and stable pair-bonding where children were (and are) identified by their father. The relations like Maamaa (maternal uncle), Mausi (maternal aunt), mother, sibling were defined earlier during matriarchal times. Now slowly, Chacha (paternal uncle), Bua (paternal aunt), their kids (cousins), were also defined.
It is interesting that by the time of Vyaasa Muni, all these extensive family relations which we use even today were well-established in society. The societal norms about which women are off limits and which are not were also in place, gotra system was in place, patriarchal identification had become norm. Yet he did not shy away from chronicling the earlier times when they were not. He did it proudly, without any shame.
Emperor Janamejaya asked this question to sage Vaishampayana during his serpant sacrifice. Emperor was visible shaken and expressed horror and disgust at earlier stories of copulating siblings, parent-offspring duos, parent siblings with offsprings along with others. Vaishampayana replied,"Oh king, in those ancient times, that was the yuga-dharma".