Cosmo saar, I think you are worrying too much about how the rest of the world can somehow manage India when they haven't been able to rein in even lameduck Govts beyond a point.
Please take a step back and think of it this way. What was the point of the reflexive comparison to Pakistan?
So an India standing up for its interests & seeking an independent policy by inviting Putin, leader of a nation with whom we share a deep strategic partnership, from whom we source the bulk of our military equipment, a country which still has huge energy and mineral supplies, has international heft & deep contacts ww, makes India Pakistan?
Are you going to call the US names because they invited Gen Raheel Sharif, Musharraf etc and put out a dog and pony show for him?
So these are the actions of a "friendly nation"?
http://www.cgdev.org/page/aid-pakistan-numbers
Or are they the actions of an independent nation which does what it wants without caring a farthing for Indias strategic calculus?
So why exactly does it matter if India too behaves the same way?
Even that aside, your comparison is flawed because if there is one nation which has cocked a snook at the west and made mucho dinero out of them its Pakistan. Check the numbers above.
Has the Pakistanis SD as you refer to hurt them, or made them get more US aid? Of course, they pay a limited price in drone strikes, perception etc. They couldnt care less.
We need to be forthright and stop being poodles. You are saying
not caring what friendly states think - err, when did these states become friendly? They are states with their own national interests and have been very condescending to India in the not so recent past.
They only respect strength.
Till yesterday, Chinese were the "yellow weak Chinamen". Now they are to be respected etc since their strength is obvious and the condescension has given way to fear.
Till yesterday, India was being ignored. Now Modi is being feted. What changed? Or is it they realize he is a strong leader and not a lameduck poodle?
Our advantage is China is throwing its weight around. If we play our cards well, we can be the folks to benefit.
Hence, not necessary that we have to be obsequious.
Similarly, if a forthright Modi meets Putin & does not kowtow to western or eastern Interests but only keeps Indian interests paramount, builds Indian national strength then he will elicit more respect than some gungadin PM thinking some states are to be assuaged - the kind of person our ex PM MMS was.
If a strong competent Indian admin makes Indian economy more vibrant by easing local rules and clearing up red tape, then investments will come in. Sucking up to the west, whilst things remain haywire wont do much. OTOH, there is ample evidence to suggest that if we get our local stuff fixed, then things will improve and investment will come in when there is money to be (mutually) made.
Also, the time has long gone past where the US or any other nation can do much to India in Kashmir or anywhere else. A strong central Govt can do a lot. The periphery is to be brought in line next. That is what Amit Shah is doing.
The Robin Raphaels and Clintonistas couldn't do diddly squat against the average Indian jawan then. They can't do anything now.
Next, the UNSC. Nobody is ever going to give that to us if we act nicey nice. Period. We are too independent in terms of actions and they know it.
As we rise in power, they will perforce try to get us within the tent to p!ss out as versus being outside, p!ssing in.
Its a matter of time. Most of our issues are self created, and they can be resolved within as well.