There are enough examples of what could be termed as 'higher middle class' girls who are facing the problem, even though they also earn. And many are doing so, I will concede for their children's happiness too! I have observed such cases in close proximity. The families are steeped in social values and idea of social acceptability of the past, based on good old 'Core' values!brihaspati wrote:RayC,
I agree with you in the case of women. But I still feel class matters. Upper class in a region with acceptance of education and economic skills for girls have a chance in the sense that the girl could try to become self-reliant and also be more aware of her "rights" and how to utilize the system to a certain extent.
In my travels around India in pursuit of my career, I have had maid servants who had been abandoned by their husbands or they abandoned their drunken wasters of husbands. Though they were unskilled in the modern way, they were tough and had no inhibitions or courage to take life as it came. I salute them! My wife, the kind soul, helped them in whatever way she could - she is a freelance social worker.The women I was referring to will have hardly any skills or education given to them, and neither the share of family resources to start some venture on their own. I have many such cases in mind. I do almost breakdown every-time I remember them -as if each such woman was both a mother and a daughter to me. I do wonder (and one of the reasons I opted out of "red"s was because I found it to be "heartless"), that if we do not identify with the sorrows and sufferings of our millions of commons - who have not been given the opportunities or excuses to be productive, the training and the access to the capital that such training could use, without that heart that feels each injustice and unfairness meted out to them as our own, where can we advance?
I found that the women of what we could term economically lower echelons of society greater signatures for a tough and stoic India. They were more wedded to the 'Core' values that are stated on this forum and were tough as nails to face life in spite of all the hardships and indignities heaped on them by society.
The scriptures of any religion is ambidextrous, skilful and versatile!Strangely, I do not see the core of values as I understand them to be in the Upanishads, to be contrary to this oneness of feeling with all suffering, "amritasya putraa". But I feel that oneness of feeling is the first step towards what we want our nation to be and become.
